Summertime Rejuvenator for Smart Girls

By Lauren Salamone,

I hope you’re having an enjoyable summer so far!

I also hope you’re taking some time to unwind, which is the top way to recharge the ol’ battery.  To really unwind, you clear your mind of all the information that’s been actively occupying it for the past school year.  You allow yourself to clear all of that away and simply get back in touch with YOU.  Not you the student.  Not you the daughter.   Not you the girlfriend, teammate, intern, lifeguard, camp counselor, BFF, sister, or anything else that defines you.  Just YOU enjoying your own internal space and energy.

I was at the hair salon yesterday, and I took the time, myself, to clear away my conscious thoughts and unwind.  I’ve been incredibly busy lately working on some tight deadlines. So yesterday I took the opportunity to connect with my own internal space, while my stylist took care of the “exterior me.”  The hair came out great, but the peace, confidence, and positive energy I felt inside trumped it.  What an experience. I felt like a million bucks when I walked out of there.

It’s quite simple to get to that peaceful internal place and to get those benefits for yourself.

Just follow these steps to do it:

1) If you’re in a place where you can do so, close your eyes.  If not, that’s fine, too.

2) Listen, really listen, to the sounds around you. Don’t analyze them; just take them in as an observer.  Notice each sound you hear and take it in as you open yourself up to hearing even more of what’s happening around you. Let the sounds mingle with one another. Don’t formulate any particular opinion about the sounds or even think about them. Simply experience them for at least a few minutes, longer if you can.

3)  You’ll realize that you are, in fact, connecting with your own unique internal space and energy as you listen in this way.  You’re really relaxing your mind and you’re reminding yourself of the remarkable YOU who is the foundation of the journey you’re on right now.  The true you.  The beautiful you.  The unique you.

Don’t lose sight of her. Take the opportunity this summer to re-connect with your internal space and energy in this way as often as possible.  Just a few minutes here or there.  You’ll really help yourself unwind.  You’ll also keep yourself conscious of your Own True Identity and your Own True Beauty.


Introduction to Cultivating a Connection to Purpose in Your Teen

By Gina S. Calvano, Founder and President of

The vast majority of us begin to face pressure to decide what to do with our lives when we are around age 15 or 16 in anticipation of graduating high school around age 18.  Most of us aren’t even allowed to decide what time to come home from hanging out with our friends at 15 no less to decide the way we plan to contribute to solving the world’s problems.  Isn’t it just so crazy that this is the way of our world?

Although as parents we can (or at least try), to guide our children in this decision, often it produces anxiety because we too are emotionally involved in this decision.  We want our Continue reading

Finding True Love

By Lauren Salamone,

Do you love yourself? I know that may sound like a crazy question, but think about it for a moment…

I’m a mentor to college girls, and lately we’ve been spending quite a bit of time on this question. It’s become clear to me that the more students can answer that question with a resounding “Yes!” the happier and more successful they become. I’ve realized, too, that the sooner girls understand and embrace the concept of self-love, the better!

I’m not talking about conceited, in-love-with-yourself love. I’m referring to a component of inner-strength that puts a spring in your step. And joy in your heart. It entails being kind and patient with yourself. Continue reading

The Fashion Freedom to Mix and Match

By Melissa Kaplan Guarino, “Styling with Mel”

I write a fashion column and what I love most about fashion is the freedom it gives you to express yourself – to tell the world, this is who I am. Sometimes, however, finding that freedom is especially tricky if you are a teenage girl. It is a tender time. You are trying so hard to identify yourself as an individual while at the same time feeling the social pressures to fit in like never before. How does this translate to fashion trends and making choices about what to wear?  Continue reading

Myths about Girls & Money

From birth to age eighteen, a girl needs good parents,

From eighteen to thirty-five, she needs good looks,

From thirty-five to fifty-five, a good personality,

From fifty-five on, she needs good cash!

~ Sophie Tucker, a Russian born American singer and actress during the early 20th century

While this quote is funny, it points out some myths and truths about how girls and women think about money.

We’ve all seen the movies with our daughters where the beautiful princess is saved by the handsome prince. Continue reading